Insecurity can be described as a phenomenon where a partner keeps having doubts about the faithfulness of his or her partner at all times. It occurs where there is lack of trust in a relationship/marriage.
With insecurity in a relationship, partners argue and blow up little issues that are not worth more than a 5 sentence explanation into a big issue thereby, causing strains, heartaches, headaches and even destruction of a beautiful relationship.
The person that suffers the most is the partner on the receiving end or the person that is always been accused wrongly and always faced with a situation of trying to vindicate themselves with evidence/proofs .
In worse cases, Insecurity could be extremely detrimental to any relationship/marriage when the issue at hand may appear to be cheating meanwhile it is not. With an ever doubtful mind, the insecure person could take drastic actions that could lead to the death of the accused. This is very painful especially if the accused has always been the faithful type with a clean past and conscience.
Lets look at steps to take in order to avoid the dangers of Insecurity in our relationship/marriages.
1. Stop Trying to be a Psychologist
Psychologist here connotes reading the mind of your partner. You need to understand that people think differently including identical twins so the perspective your partner reasons or see things might be different from the way you see things. Even if your partner is quiet over some things, you do not need to make assumptions of what they are thinking. Focus more on what you are been told so as to avoid thoughts of cheating thus insecurity.Learn to take your partners words as they come open heartedly and do not bother about the story untold.
2. Leave baggage from previous relationships.
There is a popular idiom that says ; once bitten twice shy which applies to so many aspects of our lives and including relationships. Hence, it is expected that someone who has been cheated on in their previous relationships would be more watchful and wise in their next relationship. In as much as it is good to be wiser , you have to understand that people are different and so is every relationship.The best way to avoid insecure feeling is to let go of bad experiences in previous relationship, have an open mind and start every relationship on fresh grounds so as to avoid issues of been overly suspicious in an attempt to protect oneself from another heartbreak.
3. Stop creating problems where there is none.
Insecure partners need to stop thinking there is more to what you see. Take for example, you see the zip of your partner broken and coincidentally a female colleague just walked out of his office. Then you start thinking of what could have to a broken zip. Definitely it was most likely broke in the process of him cheating on you before you walked in. You need to understand that it could have been broken on his way to work, at work or he probably did not noticed before putting on the trouser. Learn to stop hallucinating or making a mental movie script out of any little incident you see to avoid having in issues. Ask questions and let by gone be by gone.
4. Pray about it.
This is the beginning and end of the solution to Insecurity. You need the Grace of God to forget the past and start life on a new grounds, to be patient to hear your partner out, to be free minded, for understanding and to see your partner in the positive Light. In everything you do in life always put God first!
Defavouredkings blog fans, you can make a change in your relationships with God, hardwork and determination. Take all these steps and save your marriage/relationships from unnecessary fight.
Do not forget to share this with your loved ones while you maintain peace in your relationships.
No comments:
Post a Comment